"Look, the wedding!" All kids playing in the street will run together to look at the shining bride in a car decorated with colors and tapes, to touch magic sensation of a holiday ... at such moment somehow it would not be desirable to think that the everyday life will begin soon. Also that half of families now breaks up, not maintaining such check, and the staying fairly from being always can be named happy. However, everyone hopes, what exactly this marriage will become an exception and will not stick in a bog of squabbles, quarrels, changes and even loneliness. But one hope is not enough. The marriage is not a lottery and not the action "Try once again". Here a lot depends on us. To support fire in a home - for this purpose it is necessary both desire and skill and patience. Certainly, first time joint life not seems especially tiresome because of romantic feelings working on us. However, simply fondly to believe, that so will be always. For a way at this vital ocean of you can trap reeves of joint tests - the periods of apathy, indifference, disappointments, not speaking about "middle-aged crisis". Marriages in which basis it is not necessary the unshakable decision to keep together, are similar to the fragile ancient bridges. What to do if as a result of all it fire of love starts to die away, and it seems, what all best remained in the past?
The best means of restoration of former love feelings - to talk about those times when the passion burned fire. When you could not wait meetings, and each minute of separation seems eternity. Do not overlook about such romantic things as breakfast in bed, a shish kebab at a fire, the kiss under a rain, love letters and so forth - that to whom is pleasant. The happiest marriages never refuse romanticism and that adds fire in the family center. One of the important skills that is necessary for learning is a skill to argue. The healthy conflict always is focused on sore points and problems, and does not beat on vanity of the spouse (like: "Why I have married you!" Or "you resemble mom more and more!"). That it is better to express the opinion on the usual situation and on that, as though she should be changed, try to create a bright verbal picture - this reception operates (especially for men), than a stream of reproaches and complaints much better. By the way think, whether it was necessary to argue in general. Can be, the reason of quarrel of that does not cost? Someone has told, that a key to a happy marriage with a mail order bride is in being all eyes before wedding, and through fingers - after it.
One of ways to unity of family consists in creation of family traditions (and it is desirable not campaigns in a tavern or in a pub). They can be connected to holidays of Christmas and New Year, birthdays, special family holidays like "day of acquaintance of parents".
You see usually main reason of break is egoism, and strong relations are under construction then when we think less of ourselves and more about those whom we love. Such marriage will stand firmly in the most storm weather. And tests at the correct attitude to them only will strengthen even more union. If you want, that your marriage last all life, make the decision, that anything, except for death, can not rise between you, and operate accordingly. In the term all your efforts will necessarily be justified.